You’ve given 110% at work, it was crazy stressful, maybe you messed something up, maybe you were given more work than you can handle. Now you are home, and you just can’t take anymore.
Stop asking me for stuff. Stop needing me. Please just leave me alone.
But you feel guilty.
Because this is (should be) your happy place.
Your loving place.
But sometimes, we are so overwhelmed, so burned out, we just can’t take another minute. Of anything.
So here is what you can do:
Turn off your thoughts from the day. Yea, I know that is hard to do. Especially if you had a really bad or stressful day and still have the adrenaline going. Just start by closing your eyes and taking a few long, deep breaths. Anything to bring you back to the present. Pull out your phone a do a 10 minute Calm meditation. Or 2 minutes. Anything helps at this point.
Think some positive thoughts. Like, “spring break is coming soon”, “I have a spa appointment this weekend”, “I got home before sunset”. One positive thought will lead to another (at least it will replace the negative thoughts), and this alone can completely change your evening.
Consider cancelling your evening – depending on what is going on. If it is full of activities the kids really don’t want to go to, and there is no big consequence in missing, then just skip it. Call it a “mental health evening”.
Order out dinner. Unless you love cooking and it brings you happiness and calmness. Then, by all means, cook to your heart’s delight. For the rest of us, give Golden Chopsticks a call.
Leave the dishes. In the sink so they are out of sight, but they can wait until tomorrow.
Get in some “me” time. Whatever that means to you. Take a bath, get your nails done, lay in bed and read a book or magazine, watch old episodes of Seinfield.
Let the kids in. Let them make you laugh and smile. Run around the house with them. Try a hula hoop or jump roping contest. Learn from them and their living-in-the-moment tendencies.
Go to bed early. Call it a day. Tomorrow is brand new, full of opportunities.